What to Do When You Realize You Don’t Want Kids

Contrary to popular belief, not everyone is cut out for parenthood, especially if they are perfectly happy with being single. The sooner people realize that sexual pleasure can come at a certain price, the sooner people can avoid unplanned pregnancies, which often leave children to fend for themselves.

There’s nothing wrong with not wanting children— it’s just like those who don’t want to be tied down in a loveless marriage. Ultimately, a person decides what’s best for themselves. And if they decide that they want their lives to remain as is, single and free to do whatever they want, then that’s okay.

Nowadays, it’s fairly common for people to live their lives chasing after adventures and excitement without being held back by responsibilities. Of course, children are gifts, and many people dream of becoming parents when they reach a certain age, but those who don’t want that life for themselves shouldn’t be shamed for their choices.

For instance, people such as pro-athletes, extreme sports enthusiasts, and career-driven professionals may not want to be held back from their potential because they suddenly have to face parenthood. There’s always the option to use contraceptives, but there are more permanent options, such as these below:

For Men

If you’re a man and you have decided that parenthood isn’t for you, then you can consider having a procedure that permanently makes you sterile. There are various forms of this permanent birth control, but one of the most popular choices is the no-scalpel vasectomy.

While the traditional method involves making small incisions to access the vas deferens, which is the tube that allows sperm cells to travel, the no-scalpel method doesn’t involve any incisions. Rather, small puncture holes will be created to access the tubes so that they can be tied.

Vasectomies can prevent pregnancies almost 100 percent of the time, which is more cost-effective than condoms and other forms of contraceptives. It’s also a speedy procedure, which means less time for recovery, and you can be back on your feet in no time.

Although while in recovery, you should avoid strenuous activities such as contact or extreme sports, sexual intercourse, and lifting heavy objects for at least a week or two. And don’t worry about not producing testosterone because that hormone goes into your bloodstream, not your vas deferens.

For Women


If you’re a woman and have decided that parenthood isn’t for you, you have more birth control options. There are reversible and irreversible options that work for you, but it mostly depends on your physician’s recommendation.

There are more options for women, mainly because they are in charge of carrying the pregnancy should they choose to have one. The reversible options include taking birth control pills, placing an intrauterine device (IUD) inside the womb, or inserting a progestin implant into the arm, among others.

These options have varying levels and lengths of effectiveness but are still better than depending solely on condoms, which can easily break. For more permanent birth control options, there are surgical procedures that can be done.

Such as the vasectomies in men, women can also have their tubes tied through ligation. This procedure prevents the eggs from traveling from the ovaries to the uterus. Tubal ligation can also prevent sperm from traveling through the tubes and into the ovary, where fertilization often occurs.

However, the procedure itself can be hard to achieve if you’ve never given birth or are still young because the women who have tried to do this are often met with laughter and criticism. This is particularly because physicians believe that this is a decision that women will regret in the future, on the off chance that they change their mind and want to have a baby.

While finding a doctor to perform tubal ligation can pose a challenge, having the ability to decide what’s best for your body can be a rewarding albeit exhausting experience. Once you complete the procedure, you can enjoy your life without fear of an unwanted pregnancy looming over you like a dark shadow.

Why Go to Such Lengths?

Getting a procedure can permanently remove the possibility of parenthood from a person, but it does not prevent sexually transmitted diseases. This means that people still need to practice safe sex through the use of condoms.

This begs the question, why go to such lengths to avoid pregnancy? The answer to this is simple: it’s because a person wants to live a child-free life. These people may enjoy the company of children, but they don’t see themselves as being a biological parent to a child, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

Besides, if they ever change their minds after having done a permanent birth control procedure, they always have the option to adopt. So, in the meantime, they can enjoy their singlehood and child-free life, chasing after the next adventure and living their lives to the fullest.

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